IS ESTRANGEMENT TRENDING ON SOCIAL MEDIA? IS NO CONTACT TRENDING ON SOCIAL MEDIA? WHO ARE THESE INFLUIENCERS?

 

Estrangement has become trendy. There is no shortage of social media platforms encouraging and giving approval for young adults to become estranged from their parents. There are rules and examples of how to go no contact. Like the pied Piper of Hamlin if you play the right tune (frequency) they will fall in line or follow right along. The young are vulnerable, they are easy targets.  

People are mesmerized by those trending videos, Instagram photos and those popular on  social media platforms. They are popular so people follow blindly ignoring the facts.  People want to be more like them, not lookin at the consequences of how they are hurting others or even how they are losing their self, losing their own identity. People join cults, gangs, follow drug dealers, sell their bodies for sex, no shortage of how people are convinced to change their lives, not always for the better doing things they never thought they would do. 

Getting canceled is easy. Anyone not in agreement with someone else's views is considered toxic. The popular crowd pushing drugs, prostitution estrangement, gangs, crime, whatever the negative influence, or flavor of the day if you don't agree you are considered toxic and cut out of someone's life, you are canceled. 

If you try to get someone out of a bad situation, or give an opinion that differs, or even suggest something they don't like, you are labeled as controlling. Parents trying to get kids off drugs,  trying to get their kids to do chores, or going to school, anything the kids don't want to do are labeled controlling. Parents not in agreement with something, they are labeled narcissistic and selfish. Parents are blamed, not the popular charismatic influencers. No shortage of  second hand labeling and diagnosing parents as being the problem. It's not the parents controlling it is the outside negative influence. 

The no contact influencers give instructions while calling themselves supportive. Estranged adults are told how weak they are should they want to contact their parents. They are given reasons not to. They are told how wonderful they are for cutting the ones who love them most, their own parents out of their lives. Even to the point of avoiding anything and anyone connected with their parents, something simple as a fast food place you once liked, you now have to avoid, even music on the radio, anything connected is cut. 

I once heard a story of a young lady wanting to cut her mother out of her life just for purchasing a purebred dog! This was ripping her heart out because she rescued animals. So the mother was labeled toxic by strangers, when it appears the daughter was being the controlling one. Everyone was quick to agree with the daughter, and criticize the mother. Now is it even possible for  a mother to suddenly find herself estranged from her daughter for something so simple as buying a purebred dog?

The more intolerant we become of others, the weaker we become as individuals. The more we follow other's blindly the more we lose our own identity. Just because  people exclude others with different opinions doesn't make them a better person, and doesn't make any group superior to others with different opinions. There is a lot of gaslighting, exclusion and even estrangement from parents.  People are becoming more divided daily. No one is perfect and the expectation that others must conform to irrational rules is unrealistic. 

People are mesmerized by the popular charismatic ones who are destroying who they truly are and those they love. Many parents mourn being estranged from their children. Why is everyone  so quick to judge the parents? Those parents have stories of how outside influence destroyed their relationships. Similar to how my daughter who left to go live with her favorite teacher four hours away. Parents are left with nothing but pain and anguish as their lives are destroyed over someone who influenced their child. 

Parents have found similar notes that we found of their 18 yr old's suddenly and without warning banishing them out of their lives. Notes that were not expected, and appeared to be influenced by something or someone else. If you search enough on the internet,  instructions could be found on how to write these letters. The no contact trend is helping keep these adults estranged from parents who love them. The trends of  breaking up relationships are out there. 

Was there a popular high school teacher guiding our daughter into writing the note we found? After all, the woman on the other end of the line, that the police located with the phone number said she had a copy. No one has questioned or noticed this. We are now estranged from our daughter while she lives in her home. Is this popular teacher encouraging our daughter to be estranged? Why would anyone suspect a popular teacher? Why would anyone suspect a teacher without children of her own who suddenly claimed to adopt a daughter? 

WE ARE CANCELED PARENTS!